Grief walks bringing bereaved women together

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Walking Through Grief is a space for the women to have "honest conversations"

The founder of a walking group for grieving women says the combination of fresh air and camaraderie has helped her through some of her "darkest days".

Amy Bassinder, from Barnsley, said walking had been an "outlet" for her after her dad died with prostate cancer in 2025, and she wanted to help others dealing with their grief.

She said: "I needed to find other people that feel like I do ... I thought there must be other people that feel like me and are burying their feelings."

She set up Walking Through Grief to be a space for people to have "honest conversations, talking about these people that you love and you'd lost".

"I've learnt that it's not talked about enough, people don't want to talk about grief," she said.

"You have a funeral and it's as if, 'right you move on now'... it just didn't work like that."

Bassinder said losing her dad had left a "massive void" in her life.

"My dad was my best friend, he was the one person I could go to with all my problems," she said.

"When people let me speak about him and I can be open like I can with this group, I do cry, and it's good to cry."

News imageAmy Bassinder Side by side images of Bassinder and her dad on hikes. In one, she looks about 9 years old. He has his arm around her and they smile at the camera. The other is a more recent selfie, she looks to be in her 20s, where they are both smiling and have a view of hills behind them.Amy Bassinder
Bassinder said her dad was a keen walker and kept hiking up mountains while going through chemotherapy

Lesley Logan said she felt "safe and comfortable" joining the group after she lost her husband.

"This is an area we came to a lot, and I probably wouldn't want to come on my own," she said.

"In this group... you can express exactly what your grief looks and feels like. There's an underlying understanding of what grief brings to you.

"And it's not all doom and gloom, we like exploring and sharing things... [about] just life in general."

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Logan said everyone had an "underlying understanding" of each other's grief

Leonie Ibbotson said the group gave support to people who may not have family or friends, or who live far away from their community.

"I think it's a good idea, it's getting people together sharing stories and people can share ways of coping and managing grief really," she said.

Her sister, Hollie, was diagnosed with breast cancer soon after their mum became suddenly unwell and died in March 2024.

"It's been a mad couple of years. We're getting back on our feet slowly," Hollie said.

They said they planned to return to more of the group walks as a pair.

News imageTwo women who seem to be in their late thirties. Hollie on the left wears a grey hoodie. Leonie wears a pink shirt and beige cardigan. Both have neutral expressions and their hair up in ponytails.
Hollie and Leonie Ibbotson said they have had a "mad couple of years" following the loss of their mum

"It can get very lonely, but you've got a group of people going through same and similar situations," Leonie added.

Bassinder schedules the walks for different days of the week, at various times and in a number of locations to try and make sure they are accessible to everyone.

She said her dad was "the reason I'll keep doing what I can to help others, even on my bad days".

"I truly believe being outdoors is what kept him going for so long, and I know it is getting me through my darkest days."

The Barnsley women who walk through their grief

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